Is there a good store in the area to buy baby stuff

James wrote:
My point was to think about what kind of parent you want to be before just going out and reacting to a pregnancy by buying a bunch of shit "you're supposed to have". I think you yourself made the same exact point earlier.

When we were pregnant, we went out and bought crap we were "supposed to buy". We ended up throwing away the crib after never using it, and either selling or giving away the stroller we never used.

grateful wrote:

James wrote:
We never used a crib and very seldom used any stroller other than a jogging stroller.

I suggest a shared bed or co-sleeper and then later a futon mattress as better alternatives to cribs.And Baby Bjorns or other slings as much more convenient and nurturing alternatives to strollers.

You can get all of those items new online. Better yet, you can probably find them in good shape used for a fraction of the cost on Craigslist.

You're welcome.

I wonder what you would have told him if he had actually asked for parenting advice.  Maybe "go to ikea"?  Seems like you have your answers and your questions sorted incorrectly.

James Ford is the angriest hippie in the world.  I am certainly not going to buy a used futon mattress on craigslist.

walkonby wrote:
have a baby . . . wait eighteen years . . . they become this:

http://www.cnn.com/2014/03/04/justice/student-sues-parents-new-jersey/

enjoy.

I don't get it.  She is 18 the school is picking up the cost of her remaining high school.  What is she sueing for?  Join the military is my advice.

James, when your child was above 30lbs or so, did you continue to schelp her around in a bjorn/sling?

Also, how long did your child sleep in bed with you? I'm assuming you didn't drop her on to a futon at 6 months?

atomic wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

atomic wrote:

Relaxer wrote:
Just go to Babies'r'Us

Everything there looked super low quality and flimsy.

because it is.  go with solid wood and untreated for your crib. cheap mattresses off gas tons of chemicals too.  Sucks to drop cash on this stuff, but it's important.  Unlike bigscreen TVs and European cars

The question is where would one buy such quality mattresses and cribs?

if you had posted this two months ago, I would have literality given this to you as we tried to sell on craigslist to no avail, offered to friends then and gave it to Goodwill
Pacific Rim Cribs

But we kinda are hippies  ;D (at least when it comes to stuff for the wee ones)

The co-sleeper is a good idea and you would use that for first few months
So you have plenty of time on the crib

Yada wrote:
James, when your child was above 30lbs or so, did you continue to schelp her around in a bjorn/sling?

30lbs…don't you think they'd be walking at this point!?

Slings are great, especially for the dads.  my only comment on these…the baby should face you
sensory overload for them and they can't look at you for reassurance everything is ok with all those scary noises and bright lights.

I imagine this is what it would be like visiting JF's house stroller

Sidehatch wrote:

Yada wrote:
James, when your child was above 30lbs or so, did you continue to schelp her around in a bjorn/sling?

30lbs…don't you think they'd be walking at this point!?

Slings are great, especially for the dads.  my only comment on these…the baby should face you
sensory overload for them and they can't look at you for reassurance everything is ok with all those scary noises and bright lights.

I imagine this is what it would be like visiting JF's house stroller

Sure, they're walking but if you're out on an all day jaunt, your 1.5 year old isn't going to walk five miles.

Maybe Babies'r'Us has changed since I was last in there five years ago but unless you're Gwenyth Paltrow, I think they have a range of products from low quality to very good quality and my anecdotal evidence is based on using them for two kids.

Also, taking your kid for long walks in a stroller is so fun. I did love doing the same with the (unbelievably overpriced) Baby Bjorn, and the backpack carrier, and the sling, but I'd take my kids for 5-mile walks around the city and the stroller worked very well for that.

I'm against the co-sleeper and the whole idea of the babies sleeping in the parents' bed. I understand that it works for some people, but both my kids are amazing sleepers and I attribute that largely to their being comfortable alone in their crib, racecar beds, big boy beds, and now regular twin beds.

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

Thanks, Sherlock.

ggw wrote:

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

ggw wrote:

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

lol

ggw wrote:

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

I don't know which way is worse as this is just about the dumbest thing I have ever read.  Would be worse if James Ford had written it or is it worse that he tried to pretend these were his own thoughts.

But didn't you feel like there was more of a bonding experience going on when you had them in the sling as opposed to a stroller?

When it came to five mile walks/runs, our jogging strollers definitely were the way to go.

There also comes an age where the kids themselves should be walking, and not sitting in a stroller. WTF is up with people having their four year olds in a stroller?

Relaxer wrote:


Also, taking your kid for long walks in a stroller is so fun. I did love doing the same with the (unbelievably overpriced) Baby Bjorn, and the backpack carrier, and the sling, but I'd take my kids for 5-mile walks around the city and the stroller worked very well for that.

It sounds like it's straight from an article. Are you really so dumb that you can't tell what is copied and pasted from an article and what someone is typing on a message board apart?

atomic wrote:

ggw wrote:

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

I don't know which way is worse as this is just about the dumbest thing I have ever read.  Would be worse if James Ford had written it or is it worse that he tried to pretend these were his own thoughts.

Sidehatch wrote:

atomic wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

atomic wrote:

Relaxer wrote:
Just go to Babies'r'Us

Everything there looked super low quality and flimsy.

because it is.  go with solid wood and untreated for your crib. cheap mattresses off gas tons of chemicals too.  Sucks to drop cash on this stuff, but it's important.  Unlike bigscreen TVs and European cars

The question is where would one buy such quality mattresses and cribs?

if you had posted this two months ago, I would have literality given this to you as we tried to sell on craigslist to no avail, offered to friends then and gave it to Goodwill
Pacific Rim Cribs

But we kinda are hippies  ;D (at least when it comes to stuff for the wee ones)

The co-sleeper is a good idea and you would use that for first few months
So you have plenty of time on the crib

Thanks for the link. I  don't think I like the idea of the co sleeper because instead of the wife waking up and going to another room she would be keeping me awake in my room.  I guess this might work for James Ford because he doesn't sleep in the same room as his wife. 

James wrote:
It sounds like it's straight from an article. Are you really so dumb that you can't tell what is copied and pasted from an article and what someone is typing on a message board apart?

atomic wrote:

ggw wrote:

James wrote:
If you?re in this camp about plural pregnancy announcements, you probably understand that pregnancy is something, that while physically done by the mother alone, take team work. This team work is about mentally and emotionally preparing for the arrival of a new baby into the family. It can also be about the physical support that a new mom needs as she?s going through pregnancy. (Think someone to help do house work, while she?s throwing up in the bathroom.) Typically people in this camp are pregnant for the first time are or trying to conceive. (It?s not to say that it can?t be done or done right, it?s just to say that it?s really hard to feel like you?re a team when only one of you is sick or doesn?t want to eat. The opposite is also true, when you?re alone the one feeling the baby move, that?s a pretty special secret.)

Shemp wrote:
You were pregnant?

Nice cut & paste job.

http://pregnancy.about.com/od/announcingyourpregnancy/a/We-Are-Pregnant-Are-We-Pregnant.htm

I don't know which way is worse as this is just about the dumbest thing I have ever read.  Would be worse if James Ford had written it or is it worse that he tried to pretend these were his own thoughts.

James you got caught.  Just admit it.  Like all your other ideas they come from other people.

My wife is a very strong woman. 30 pounds=piece of cake,

We had a co-sleeper attached to our bed for about six months. We then moved her into a futon.

Turned out to be very convenient. Rather than be awakened multiple times for feedings in the middle of the night and have to trot from one room to the next, my wife could just shove the breast in daughter's face and they'd both quickly fall back asleep together.

This worked very well during the breastfeeding years, and there were no sleep issues for my daughter (Not to mention both my wife and I got better sleep than if the kid had been in a crib in another room).

Yada wrote:
James, when your child was above 30lbs or so, did you continue to schelp her around in a bjorn/sling?

Also, how long did your child sleep in bed with you? I'm assuming you didn't drop her on to a futon at 6 months?

atomic wrote:

Thanks for the link. I  don't think I like the idea of the co sleeper because instead of the wife waking up and going to another room she would be keeping me awake in my room.  I guess this might work for James Ford because he doesn't sleep in the same room as his wife. 

Sadly my wife wanted me to feel the pain  :o
but I sleep like a rock and am fine on 4 hours sleep

But the first few months if you are breast feeding …co sleeper is the way to go
getting up and going into another room to breast feed opposed to just rolling over and doing it is so much easier

I do think at a certain point they need to get in their own bed in their own room, I'm not a family bed kind guy
that's insane

Family I knew in SF had a 4 year old and twins in their bed everynight (still do I imagine)
no f'n way
I'm not into the attachment parenting stuff.

I think the sling is great…and when I lived in SF, I'd get out and do the hills for an hour or so with them in the sling…great workout and they slept the whole time.
and long trips out in the parks or around town, the strollers do come in handy for the under 3 crowd

Also don't get a sit up stroller for an infant…get a pram.
babies should be seated until they are able to sit up on their own
people always try way too hard to get babies to the next stage…

As someone who is going through all of this right now, so far we used a co-sleeper the first six weeks and just put her in her own room (a whopping six feet away) last week. The first month was tough (but not nearly as brutal as some make it out to be), but she's to the point now where she'll sleep for five/six hours straight, feed, and then sleep for an additional three hours or so.

Did anyone hear the interview with Blossom on Stern?

Talk about a crazy ass parent. Wow.

one of the best interviews in a while!  shes a tad off putting crazy, but oh so intelligent, put together and well grounded, as well.  hey, it could be worse, she could be alicia silverstone mom crazy.  but breast feeding until two and reading signals when your kid wants to poop and pee . . . really?  come on blossom!  buy a damn diaper, so they can go running through walmart with it full of shit, like everybody else.