Going it alone at a show

Originally posted by Bags:
What IS Sparks?

A beverage for the discriminating, sophisticated drinker who wants extra caffeine with his Smirnoff Ice.

Originally posted by eros:

Originally posted by Bags:
What IS Sparks?

A beverage for the discriminating, sophisticated drinker who wants extra caffeine with his Smirnoff Ice.

yeah, just to clarify, since i started this Sparks talk…i dont EVER drink it. i am canadian…we drink beer and whiskey…nothing else.

i used to go to shows at the 9:30 club alone quite a bit, but after awhile it got boring. i met kurosawa and since then when im in dc, most shows i see with her. btw- relaxer thought of you last night when i heard idlewild. :)

i used to try and find people to see shows with in nyc, but my average went from a show a week to sometimes 3-5. most people arent into stuff that much. ive met a lot of interesting people at shows, and some ive become good friends with. my fav shows are aussie and british bands at the small clubs. it seems everyone is so friendly and perhaps also so drunk.

and even in nyc, ive still managed to hang out with some boardies at shows here and there. after seeing the kooks with a bunch of drunk englishmen who wanted to pound beers all night, i realized quickly id rather go to a show alone. i ditched them and jumped around in the middle of a frenzied crowd and had a great time.

Originally posted by le sonick:
yeah, just to clarify, since i started this Sparks talk…i dont EVER drink it. i am canadian…we drink beer and whiskey…nothing else.

since when have Labatt Ice or Molson Ice been considered "beers"?

Originally posted by sweetcell:
since when have Labatt Ice or Molson Ice been considered "beers"?

Since 1763

Originally posted by sweetcell:

Originally posted by le sonick:
yeah, just to clarify, since i started this Sparks talk…i dont EVER drink it. i am canadian…we drink beer and whiskey…nothing else.

since when have Labatt Ice or Molson Ice been considered "beers"?

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dude, you're SOOO not Canadian!

I go to most shows solo. ggw-ette isn't so keen on club shows anymore (unless they involve Dave Grohl), and my friends' tastes and my own only overlap about 15% of the time. That being said, I run into people I know at shows often. If I want to hang out with my friends, I'll go play poker or go out to dinner. If I'm going to a show, I'm going for the music.

This thread is making me miss LuLu, Markie and PDX Pollard…. For a couple years there, I saw them at most shows I went to.

Am I hearing/seeing a pattern that when it's a couple who have unequal love for showgoing, it's almost always the male who is fonder of showgoing?

Originally posted by Charlie Nakatestes,Japanese Golfer:
Am I hearing/seeing a pattern that when it's a couple who have unequal love for showgoing, it's almost always the male who is fonder of showgoing?

Men are insecure. I doubt most men could handle a relationship with a woman who frequently went to nightclubs without them.

I was thinking the same thing. Historically, that's been the case for me, both with my musically-inclined friends' significant others and mine as well.

For my wife, the crowds are a big deterrent, as is the fact that her average height keep her from seeing at times. Overall, though, I just don't think it's her thing.

She comes to shows now and again, either for bands she likes (the Shins & Ted Leo) or for bands I drag her to (Animal Collective & the Unicorns). She generally has a good time when she goes, but I think she's just not into it.

Originally posted by Charlie Nakatestes,Japanese Golfer:
Am I hearing/seeing a pattern that when it's a couple who have unequal love for showgoing, it's almost always the male who is fonder of showgoing?

I prefer going to shows alone. I find that the more people I include in my respective concert experience, the more potential/occurence there is for them to blow my experience/buzz. I like the freedom of being able to move when I wanna move. Especially at 9:30, sometimes I wanna post by the bar, sometimes I wanna get up close. Accounting for other personalities and agendas in the midst of a priceless music experience is nothing short of a bitch.

Also my friends factor into me going to shows alone by myself. Money, enthusiasm, bullshit backouts/excuses, etc. Case en point, after a drunken night downtown with some lady friends a few months back, my man was like "Fam, we should go see The Police." Say no more. I'm in. So I pulled off the (damn near) impossible. I get 8th row DEAD CENTER floor seats. For FACE value, on top of that. This dude backs out. Now, I ain't mad because at this space & time I ain't hurting for cash. But I was looking forward to it cause he fucks with The Police like I do. But oh well. I'm kinda happy now, cause chances are I'm gonna be so nice at the show I wouldn't notice if he WAS there. :D

One is truly the loneliest number . . . ;)

Originally posted by ggwâ?¢:
Men are insecure. I doubt most men could handle a relationship with a woman who frequently went to nightclubs without them.

Especially when O'Mankie's in one of his fondling moods.

Originally posted by ggwâ?¢:

Originally posted by Charlie Nakatestes,Japanese Golfer:
Am I hearing/seeing a pattern that when it's a couple who have unequal love for showgoing, it's almost always the male who is fonder of showgoing?

Men are insecure. I doubt most men could handle a relationship with a woman who frequently went to nightclubs without them.

that must be why im still single. and to whomever posted about his short girlfriend. im 5'1" and just try to either go to smaller clubs (if lucky) and if not get there damn early so i can see. if not - it ends up like last night in which case i could see about half the time, had two zillion men and women groping me, and one put his arm around me like i was his girlfriend. i was pretty horrified and i wasnt *that* drunk.

i will say most guys dont believe me when i tell them i go to that many shows. they only realize it when i cant go out on a date, because every single night i have a show to go to. somehow they always have a fit, at which point i wont even bother dating them.

Be willing to compromise and cut down on the number of shows you go to, and you'll have better luck finding a mate. Or find a concert fool like yourself!

Originally posted by xneverwherex:

Originally posted by ggwâ?¢:

Originally posted by Charlie Nakatestes,Japanese Golfer:
Am I hearing/seeing a pattern that when it's a couple who have unequal love for showgoing, it's almost always the male who is fonder of showgoing?

Men are insecure. I doubt most men could handle a relationship with a woman who frequently went to nightclubs without them.

that must be why im still single. and to whomever posted about his short girlfriend. im 5'1" and just try to either go to smaller clubs (if lucky) and if not get there damn early so i can see. if not - it ends up like last night in which case i could see about half the time, had two zillion men and women groping me, and one put his arm around me like i was his girlfriend. i was pretty horrified and i wasnt *that* drunk.

i will say most guys dont believe me when i tell them i go to that many shows. they only realize it when i cant go out on a date, because every single night i have a show to go to. somehow they always have a fit, at which point i wont even bother dating them.

Originally posted by TheDirector217:
I prefer going to shows alone. I find that the more people I include in my respective concert experience, the more potential/occurence there is for them to blow my experience/buzz. I like the freedom of being able to move when I wanna move. Especially at 9:30, sometimes I wanna post by the bar, sometimes I wanna get up close. Accounting for other personalities and agendas in the midst of a priceless music experience is nothing short of a bitch.

Also my friends factor into me going to shows alone by myself. Money, enthusiasm, bullshit backouts/excuses, etc. Case en point, after a drunken night downtown with some lady friends a few months back, my man was like "Fam, we should go see The Police." Say no more. I'm in. So I pulled off the (damn near) impossible. I get 8th row DEAD CENTER floor seats. For FACE value, on top of that. This dude backs out. Now, I ain't mad because at this space & time I ain't hurting for cash. But I was looking forward to it cause he fucks with The Police like I do. But oh well. I'm kinda happy now, cause chances are I'm gonna be so nice at the show I wouldn't notice if he WAS there. :D

One is truly the loneliest number . . . ;)

Wait…so you have an extra?

Originally posted by ixkpd-bk:
Wait…so you have an extra [Police ticket]?

I was going to ask the same thing! Which show?!?!?! ;)

sorry - no go on the compromising. these guys know up front what theyre getting. ive compromised for so many people, and ended up missing so many bands i could have seen.

anyway - most my friends are guys and we all go to shows together these days. ill find the right person at the right time or something like that.

btw - i could care less if the person goes to the shows with me, they just need to understand this is what im doing, and have enough common sense to know im not shagging guys at the shows :D

Originally posted by Charlie Nakatestes,Japanese Golfer:
Be willing to compromise and cut down on the number of shows you go to, and you'll have better luck finding a mate. Or find a concert fool like yourself!

Originally posted by xneverwherex:
btw - i could care less if the person goes to the shows with me,

I couldn't care less.

KIDDING, just going with my school marm shit for the day!! ;) Happy weekend, xnx