Parenting issues

Starsky wrote:
Oh no it’s fine…it’s an indolent cancer… it’s treatable…

glad to hear that. 

Metal parents: when is an appropriate time to start introducing kids to darker and more aggressive music like death/black metal? Do you start them out on Maiden and Sabbath and let them find their own way to the hard stuff? (Not a parent yet btw just curious about the timeline)


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I'm usually just a reader of this thread, however last night one of my offspring set our thermostat to 92 degrees… I
Lost my mind and my partner was angry at me for getting so upset at said offspring.

I then was angry at my partner for getting mad at me.

The end.

Yada wrote:
I'm usually just a reader of this thread, however last night one of my offspring set our thermostat to 92 degrees… I
Lost my mind and my partner was angry at me for getting so upset at said offspring.

I then was angry at my partner for getting mad at me.

The end.

This is the moment. The moment Space and Yada ceased being individual people and started being, Spada.

We have apps in CA that give us warnings of earthquakes.  Early this morning we had a 6.4 earthquake and the phone alerted me, rather loudly I might add, about said earthquake and to brace myself.  So I jumped out of bed and ran into the little one's room only to be reminded that she's already travelling for the holidays with mom.  Relieved that she wasn't going to have to be there for the impending big one, I braced myself for the shaking.  And I waited.  And waited.  There was no shaking.

Turns out that the earthquake was many miles away from SF (near Humboldt, for those in the know) and I was awoken really for nothing and set into panic, I suppose just for practice.  So as the adrenaline wore off and I was laying in bed going over what just happened, I realized that I put all of my concern into my toddler's well being, not even noticing that (1) my wife was not in bed next to me and (2) that I really put very little thought into her well being.  She's a grown adult so I'm sure she would have been fine (right?) and that my first priority should be with the weakest of the bunch and that's the four year old.     

Sounds like fatherly instinct and the right thing to do…

I had never heard of this app you mentioned until I read your post… a half hour later I'm mindlessly watching a show called, "bay area revelations" and they mentioned the app. Weird.

vansmack wrote:
We have apps in CA that give us warnings of earthquakes.  Early this morning we had a 6.4 earthquake and the phone alerted me, rather loudly I might add, about said earthquake and to brace myself.  So I jumped out of bed and ran into the little one's room only to be reminded that she's already travelling for the holidays with mom.  Relieved that she wasn't going to have to be there for the impending big one, I braced myself for the shaking.  And I waited.  And waited.  There was no shaking.

Turns out that the earthquake was many miles away from SF (near Humboldt, for those in the know) and I was awoken really for nothing and set into panic, I suppose just for practice.  So as the adrenaline wore off and I was laying in bed going over what just happened, I realized that I put all of my concern into my toddler's well being, not even noticing that (1) my wife was not in bed next to me and (2) that I really put very little thought into her well being.  She's a grown adult so I'm sure she would have been fine (right?) and that my first priority should be with the weakest of the bunch and that's the four year old.   

And then you went to the strip club?

Space, what's the deal with Sturgill? Is he gone for good?

I thought you're the Sturgill guy, and would more likely know the answer. I don't know. I hope not?

I was listening to the Strugill/Angel Olsen duet on YouTube and I got an earful about "this Emmylou Harris shit" and the suggested videeo was a live Sturgill performance. I was thinking man, I should have given him more or a chance but apparently the other two thirds of the house didn't agree. And here I am holding my opinion in every time I hear how amazing Mariah Carey is and how great John Mayer's first album is. Sigh. Everyone has their own thing I guess.


Also, thoughts on my thermostat being set to 92? I'm sure this would've blown your heating budget for 2022 had this happened at your home. Feel free to respond in the parenting thread.

My apologies my first reaction was to laugh. What are you going to do? As long as it didn't catch the house on fire. Is anyone still upset about it? I'm sure you've shrugged it off and moved on, right?

On a tangential note….

My wife insists on having all the windows in the house open when it's 20 degrees out and the furnace is blasting because she "likes fresh air. (and I'm uncomfortably shivering and asking if we can shut some windows, her telling me I'd like it if "you were a real man, and not a pussy.")  C'est la vie.

I think smackie is the sturgill guy… but I wouldn't be surprised if he's done.

Re: no one is still mad about it nor do I care… I was more upset that my partner was pissed at me for yelling at my daughter about turning it up to 92.

Yada wrote:
I was more upset that my partner was pissed at me for yelling at my daughter about turning it up to 92.

how old is the kid
how could they possibly know turning a dial would cost $$
and unless the windows were open like spaces house, I doubt this cost more than the price of one draft beer at some fancy craft brewery

Sidefusion wrote:

Yada wrote:
I was more upset that my partner was pissed at me for yelling at my daughter about turning it up to 92.

how old is the kid
how could they possibly know turning a dial would cost $$
and unless the windows were open like spaces house, I doubt this cost more than the price of one draft beer at some fancy craft brewery

I'm not concerned about the $$$… i was more concerned about our house burning down or our furnace blowing up going from 69 to 92.

6 years old.

Yada wrote: i was more concerned about our house burning down or our furnace blowing up going from 69 to 92.

6 years old.

well on the list of things I'm not qualified to comment on is: HVAC systems…but with that said ;)
I think very little risk here
I assume the system is new in the last 25 years?
if so there are lots of saftey/shut off features that would prevent a fire/furnace explosion
also it just slowly tries to raise the heat, not like it turns some flame on to Ludacris flame levels to get to 92 in a few mins

cut the 6yr old some slack…it's a learning opportunity.  Should go show them the big scary furnace and how it's dangerous and not to play with it (althought that can backfire too) and show them how to change the air filter (you do that every 3-6 months, right)

vansmack wrote:
Early this morning we had a 6.4 earthquake   

Lived in SF for 7 years…never really an earthquake of note in that time
move back to VA in 2011 and within a few months experience the biggest earthquake in my life (5.8 …but kinda far away)

Sturgill ruptured his Vocal Chords and was suffering from Hemorrhaging back in Sept 2021.  There's about 50/50 chance he ever sings again.

Sidepops… very nice advice and you must be a better father than me. I need to work on my patience in 2023.

I do know that for example with AC, if you blasts it down like 5+ degrees give or take vs. letting it cool slowly, it can freeze.

Based on "Bay Area Revelations" last night, SF is definitely due for a big one any moment!! Vibes to smackie!

Yada wrote:
Sidepops… very nice advice and you must be a better father than me.

surely not.  I yell at my kids all the time

Yada wrote:
I do know that for example with AC, if you blasts it down like 5+ degrees give or take vs. letting it cool slowly, it can freeze.

I don't think that is true
what is bad is start and restart the cooling multiple times. especially if you take the power out while it's trying hard to cool then plug it back in and keep doing that

that can fuck up your AC

not sure what type of HVAC you have, but my understanding is they all kind of go at the same rate and just shut off when they reach the same temp

Yada wrote:
Based on "Bay Area Revelations" last night, SF is definitely due for a big one any moment!! Vibes to smackie!

I work in Hayward, where the most likely fault line to have over a 6.0 will happen in the Bay Area is, and LITERALLY while I was typing the Sturgill response we had a 3.1 in San Leandro, about 5 miles from here.  I leave for CO tomorrow so let's hope it happens while I'm gone.

vansmack wrote:
Sturgill ruptured his Vocal Chords and was suffering from Hemorrhaging back in Sept 2021.  There's about 50/50 chance he ever sings again.

Did he record this before September 2021? It's an updated version of the title track of a 2022 album.

https://pitchfork.com/news/sturgill-simpson-joins-angel-olsen-on-new-big-time-listen/

Space wrote:

vansmack wrote:
Sturgill ruptured his Vocal Chords and was suffering from Hemorrhaging back in Sept 2021.  There's about 50/50 chance he ever sings again.

Did he record this before September 2021? It's an updated version of the title track of a 2022 album.

https://pitchfork.com/news/sturgill-simpson-joins-angel-olsen-on-new-big-time-listen/

No he did that and another studio cover of a track for a tribute album (John Anderson) but he says he can really only do one offs at this point.

EDIT:  Here's the John Anderson cover.