Parenting issues

I honestly could not imagine how hard it would be to be 18-25 today
this is not the dystopian future I was told about in Blade Runner

I know 2 recent widows (non-COVID) who are trying to manage on their own. Loneliness and mourning are a tough combination.

Imagine being old

You are 77 and live alone…but you are a very sociable person…who knows how much time you have left..and you are wasting that time


And Argentina’s government has largely enforced a quarantine so you can’t go out much at all

That’s my mom’s situation

I agree it sucks for everyone though…but old people man they are getting f’ed

How deflating is it when your kid's teacher introduces themselves and they share that they got their degree from Liberty University?

Space wrote:
How deflating is it when your kid's teacher introduces themselves and they share that they got their degree from Liberty University?

I tried to fight back against my own bias and hired a Liberty grad and it was honestly the worst person I have ever hired. EVER.

The 60 year old male teacher who said he likes Nicky Minaj scored more points with my kid than the 60 year old male teacher who said his favorite movie was a John Wayne film and his favorite tv show was Cheers.

Pro tip if you're old: Pick a movie and tv show from this century. Preferably even this past decade. If you want to sound relatable.

Another teacher in her 30's had some very milquetoast favorites and said her favorite band was the Beatles. I said "I bet the next one is going to say the Stones are her favorite band."

And sure enough, it was.

Space wrote:
Another teacher in her 30's had some very milquetoast favorites…

*gets excited for the Frank Turner burn to come*

Space wrote:
…and said her favorite band was the Beatles.

*is disappointed*

In her defense, she did say her favorite foods were grilled cheese and pizza, which is probably relatable to kids. Milque and toast, not so much.

And I'm good with the Beatles and Stones. My kid can think her teachers have bad taste just like her dad does.

Fairfax County Public Schools

https://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/hackers-break-into-fcps-network-hold-personal-info-for-ransom/2416279/?fbclid=IwAR3mXktvkXCKWpDeYvkepKu5uwQ7lc2ZEAnhWtPe5cvgcCt723yxzj5uEc0

Just curious-for those with kids doing virtual learning-what's your policy regarding phone use during class time?

my guys haven't reached phone age, so can't help you… but i have to imagine the rules should be the same as when they're in class, as in NONE?

sweetcell wrote:
my guys haven't reached phone age, so can't help you… but i have to imagine the rules should be the same as when they're in class, as in NONE?

I would too, but my opinion doesn't matter.

What's your going rate for report card rewards?

And how much would you pay your kid (who refuses to do any house chores, even for money) to do a daily 25 min workout?

I feel like you asked this before


ZERO is my going rate

in a general, 30,000-foot view, i agree with hutch.  kids shouldn't need to be motivated this way.  or at least it should be a reward, not a fixed and expected salary.

however, everybody's situation is different.  i realize that i have several "spoiled child" dynamics going with my kids which, objectively, are ridiculous and shouldn't be something i have to go through regularly (they are also things that i NEVER got away with as a kid, so it drives me insane that they think it's normal).  but i deal with it, roll with the established cadence of punches, and tell myself it could be worse. 

my guys aren't of report-card-reward-seeking age yet so i have no idea what the going rate is.  i'll admit that wanting to be paid for exercise triggered me a little, but then i stepped back and thought of the alternatives: no exercise = health problems = higher costs later.  so if you want to be coldly calculating about it, look at the incremental costs of growing up out of shape/obese, determine what fraction of that cost you would otherwise bear, take a discount off that number and then average it out over the period.  i know this appears to the economic number-cruncher in you :)

bitter wrote:
I feel like you asked this before


ZERO is my going rate

Yeah, I probably did.

My wife is offering $1000 if my kid gets straight A's this year. I'm not sure if that's straight A's every quarter for the entire year, or straight A's among just the final grades.

I think i had straight A's for every class, every quarter except for Shop, Home Ec, and Gym in grades 7 through 11, before slacking a bit as a senior. Surely, I would have been a rich kid if my wife was my parent, assuming gym class didn't count.

And she's paying her $5 for each 25 min workout, so $25/week. I never got paid a dime for six years of football practice, four years of little league, or two years of track practice. :(

It’s outrageous


Teaching your kid it’s all about the benjamins


Maybe the number one problem in America is the change that began to happen under Reagan and has accelerated where it’s all about making money and nothing else


At least tell your kid you will buy them something they want!

What’s next? Gift cards for Christmas? Or has that already happened

I mean the grade implications (slightly better grades?) are so much less important than the values you will be instilling!


Do you really think grades or where you go to college matter that much?!?

This appears to be the going rate.

https://www.countryfinancial.com/en/connect/financial-wellness/whats-an-a-worth.html

I had a system whereby she raked in about $20-$25 per quarter last year. Apparently, I was seriously underpaying.

When I was earning report card money, I was also shoveling cow manure and milking cows after school each day too.  ;)