Parenting issues

StoneTheCrow wrote:
At that age aren't kids just regurgitating what they hear their parents say? I'd encourage her to be accepting of people who have different ideas. A bit too early to get hung up on politics.

Yeah, that's basically the advice I'm going with. Her friend is basically a good kid who has been a good friend, it seems a little young to be making friendship decisions base on such things at such a young age.

I'm not sure it's *always* all about regurgitating what the parents say though. My kid says she's going to get straight A's from now on, so she can become President and institute a system of anarchy in the USA. As far as I know, she's getting her anarchy ideas from the internet and not her parents.

I like that she's found a reason to put some effort into her schoolwork though.

You know me…always quoting scripture.

some sage advice
Ezekiel 18:20 The son will not bear the punishment for the father's iniquity

Can't blame the kids for crazy parents… But, sometimes reasonable in the other direction

I do think young kids Initially pick up on what their parents say and treat it like gospel. Takes a while before they even consider whether the political or religious bent of their parents makes sense.

It’s a tough balance. I want to provide some guidance but ultimately I want my kids to think for themselves and make reasoned choices.

Elie Mystal@ElieNYC
I’m really sick of being a parent today. It has been FOUR MONTHS since anybody other than me and my wife have been responsible for them.

It’s hard. I feel like non-parents have no idea how hard it’s been.

lol is that a serious tweet? Probably not. No idea who he/she is.

StoneTheCrow wrote:
lol is that a serious tweet? Probably not. No idea who he/she is.

just a random tweet, I think it's serious though and I can personally relate on some level

I think a lot of parents are struggling with the day to day with their family
used to just send your kids to school for the day, they might have sports or other activities afterschool
Used to just send your kids to camp for the day/week
Used to be at work all day while the kids were doing these activities

Now everyone is home all the time.  Not like you can say Here's a $20 go see a movie with your friends or even go to a friends house

is a lot of 1st world white people kinda problems I agree…
but I think most parents probably didn't spend more than 20 hours a week in the same room as their kids.  now it's 24/7 and you can't tell them to go out and play with their friends

He’s on SNL

The fat black dude

hutch wrote:
He’s on SNL

The fat black dude

I don't think so….

Elie Mystal @ElieNYC
Justice Correspondent: @thenation
Alignment: Neutral Good. Str:12 Dex:8 Con:15 Int:13 Wis:10 Char:14 Class: Paladin. Strong Against: Republicans.
NYCthenation.com/authors/elie-m…Joined May 2009

has a blue check mark and everything

This guy

https://youtu.be/pskrrfxFM5o

squinting wrote:
It’s hard. I feel like non-parents have no idea how hard it’s been.

Yeah, it’s crazy how that worked out. I also don’t know what it’s like to pick up dog shit when walking the dog I didn’t get.

Sidehatch you are in the wrong place if you are looking for empathy…

hutch wrote:
Sidehatch you are in the wrong place if you are looking for empathy…

oh I know…and not really looking for it
but saw that and it struck a cord

Kind of reminds me of when I posted about my kids hardly getting any schooling and how much it sucked given their circumstances and Sweets famously replied something like “Sorry your teachers suck my kids’ teachers have been awesome!”


Made me feel all warm and fuzzy

It's been really tough for everybody.

I planned to spend time paying the guitar and learning how to ollie.  Haven't done either at this point cause of work. Boo Hoo. 

StoneTheCrow wrote:
learning how to ollie. 

Caveat Emptor as one old guy can tell ya…
damn ollie put me in surgery and now wearing a cast for next 4 weeks due to a tear of my Achilles tendon
Stretch out and warm up…this covid had me sitting on my ass for 4 months getting almost no exercise
My mind remembered what was needed to do the trick…but my tight assed tendon didn't agree

I can say this the key to a good ollie is being able to slap that tail down as hard as you can and then the second it hits the ground, jumping straight up and letting the front foot do the work to lift the rest of the board up

I will say these 'trainers' I imagine could really help get a feel for the trick with out the fear of the board flying out from under you

Ugh.  Sorry to hear that. I imagine I could end up the same way if I'm not careful. But if I can't get this down, what's the point in having the board anymore?

I do have those trainers.

I keep getting this ad for the ‘Masterclass’ by Tony hawk
But the way he describes and demonstrates how to do an Ollie is awesome and I think can really help understanding what is required to do one.  Honestly balance, strength, and confidence are the first requirements…as well as an acceptance that you ARE going to Have some epic wipeouts.  At least you give your friends/kids something to laugh at.

https://www.masterclass.com/classes/tony-hawk-teaches-skateboarding

Will have to check that out.

I keep telling myself it’s like snowboarding: once I figure it out it’ll be easy. It’s just hard to put it all together.

StoneTheCrow wrote:
I keep telling myself it’s like snowboarding:

they have some similarities but are nothing alike (street skating)
Much easier to be a ok snowboarder
than do a good Ollie

Julian, wrote:

squinting wrote:
It’s hard. I feel like non-parents have no idea how hard it’s been.

Yeah, it’s crazy how that worked out. I also don’t know what it’s like to pick up dog shit when walking the dog I didn’t get.

wrong analogy: it's having to take care of a dog which you got under the assumption there would be dog parks, you were allowed to use the sidewalk to walk your dog, that vets were available, that dog food would be sold in stores, etc. - then suddenly learn that all that was taken away, but you still have to take care of the dog.

jules, i get it, stirring the pot makes you feel powerful.  have at.  but parents did not get into the game knowing they would have a 9-hour shift of office work PLUS a 14+ hours childcare shift they would have to cover. if that was the case, the human race would be extinct. 

Statuesque-hatch wrote:
It’s hard. I feel like non-parents have no idea how hard it’s been.

expecting empathy, or intelligence, from some is a stretch.  see above.

another group in a different but unique situation are singles.  can you imagine being a 20-something, living on your own working your first job, going out on weekends… then having  to hole up by yourself for 4 months?  these are the folks who are now spreading the disease, because they can't bear the isolation any more.  it's easy to yell at them to stay home but you also have to sympathize with the loneliness they have had to wallow in.

i take it that most folks here have been able to keep their jobs - a blessing upon us all.  my deepest sympathies to anyone who isn't working at the moment due to the pandemic.  the increased unemployment benefits, if you can get them, aren't going to help you cope with the stress and uncertainty.

recent grads an another group that have it rough.  imagine walking out of college with $100K in debt and a 12% unemployment rate?


(in case you're keeping score: jules is neither a parent, nor single, nor lost his job, nor a recent grad.  no wonder he can flip a middle finger at everyone else's suffering.)