Parenting issues

My wife and I are totally fans of "occasionally you need to just put it down in writing so the other person can read and process it at their own speed and not feel on the spot to respond instantly when their fight or flight modality may be engaged". This obviously cannot be most discussions but used in the right spot, the email method can be gold.

Julian, wrote:
My wife and I are totally fans of "occasionally you need to just put it down in writing so the other person can read and process it at their own speed and not feel on the spot to respond instantly when their fight or flight modality may be engaged". This obviously cannot be most discussions but used in the right spot, the email method can be gold.

This, too. And sometimes, not all the time. Previous face to face chats on this topic had not netted good results, only building tensions

Also, our kid is around us 24/7 these days or at least it seems, and it's hard not to have a conversation without her overhearing and often inserting herself into it. Email is a way around that.

Julian, wrote:
My wife and I are totally fans of "occasionally you need to just put it down in writing so the other person can read and process it at their own speed and not feel on the spot to respond instantly when their fight or flight modality may be engaged". This obviously cannot be most discussions but used in the right spot, the email method can be gold.

I 100% agree.  The nice thing about an email is you can get out a complete thought without the person interrupting/sidetracking/focusing on a missed button

Doesn't always mean the message is well received…

SidebySide wrote:

Julian, wrote:
My wife and I are totally fans of "occasionally you need to just put it down in writing so the other person can read and process it at their own speed and not feel on the spot to respond instantly when their fight or flight modality may be engaged". This obviously cannot be most discussions but used in the right spot, the email method can be gold.

I 100% agree.  The nice thing about an email is you can get out a complete thought without the person interrupting/sidetracking/focusing on a missed button

Doesn't always mean the message is well received…

Over here at challengehouse we text one another TikTok videos as our primary means of communication, and also for the recipes.

challenged wrote:

SidebySide wrote:

Julian, wrote:
My wife and I are totally fans of "occasionally you need to just put it down in writing so the other person can read and process it at their own speed and not feel on the spot to respond instantly when their fight or flight modality may be engaged". This obviously cannot be most discussions but used in the right spot, the email method can be gold.

I 100% agree.  The nice thing about an email is you can get out a complete thought without the person interrupting/sidetracking/focusing on a missed button

Doesn't always mean the message is well received…

Over here at challengehouse we text one another TikTok videos as our primary means of communication, and also for the recipes.

Please don't tell me your partner is a teenager, Matt!

Like cute videos that you make of yourself singing and dancing and being seductive, or tik tok videos of other people.?

Should I feel bad that reading this thread makes me feel pretty good about my life?

jeffml wrote:
Should I feel bad that reading this thread makes me feel pretty good about my life?

Absolutely not, the point of this forum is to belittle others and in general make yourself feel better about your life decisions.

Yada wrote:

jeffml wrote:
Should I feel bad that reading this thread makes me feel pretty good about my life?

Absolutely not, the point of this forum is to belittle others and in general make yourself feel better about your life decisions.

can confirm

Thanks.  That is reassuring!

embattled wrote:

Yada wrote:

jeffml wrote:
Should I feel bad that reading this thread makes me feel pretty good about my life?

Absolutely not, the point of this forum is to belittle others and in general make yourself feel better about your life decisions.

can confirm

Well to put a cap on the story, my daughter was delighted to find out she won't be visiting her grandmother on her birthday after all.

My brother was the one who was going to host us (my mom doesn't have the room, and is anti-vax, anti-mask anyway). It turns out some of his in-laws visited on Saturday, stood around talking in the kitchen for three hours (with my anti-vax sister in law, while my once vaxxed brother went upstairs and opened a window), and two of the kids tested positive yesterday. One has a high fever and the shits.

Space wrote:
One has . . . the shits.

Playing the hits!

A cautionary tale…



Some kids do get VERY ill with long lasting consequences


Still it’s definitely hard doing the right thing

hutch wrote:
A cautionary tale…



Some kids do get VERY ill with long lasting consequences


Still it’s definitely hard doing the right thing

Show us the data Hutch!

You want to call up my cousin and talk to him about his kid getting covid and the hell they been through?

:(

Caveat: I have no idea how old these "kids" are.

My sister in law is 51. The people she visited with were her "aunt, niece, and nephew from NYC." I assume the niece and nephew are kids but i really have no idea.

But now I'm interested, and asked my brother.

At 23, Jayson Tatum is no longer a kid, but COVID has him still using an inhaler before and after games three months later. He did score 53 the other day, so the inhaler appears to be working.

https://people.com/sports/nba-star-jayson-tatum-uses-inhaler-before-and-after-games-following-covid-19/

hutch wrote:
A cautionary tale…



Some kids do get VERY ill with long lasting consequences


Still it’s definitely hard doing the right thing

The "niece and the nephew" are actually cousins who are in their 30's who still live at home with their mom, the aunt.

So much for the cautionary tale.

Well my distant cousin’s kid is 11 or 12… hospitalized..now home and dealing with long Covid19… “nightmare” is the mother’s description for what they have gone through


Is it usual? No. But it happens…


I got enough problems with my kids without Covid19…

I see kids from the middle school hanging out at our local shops area after school..it’s a shitshow..all the kids crowded together doing kids things..sharing stuff on their phones.. sharing candy..masks around their necks or in their hands..

Having said all this we may be sending our 8 year old back to the elementary school for the little that remains

It’s all about balance

So I need some advice

Walked in on my 11 year old and they were enjoying Insane Clown Posse

I don't know what to do, I feel like I did everything I was supposed to and provided a nurturing home that loves and appreciates art
but yet, here we are.

I've already rewritten the will, but wondering if there was something more drastic that would help here
are there ICP conversion therapy camps?

I think this is one of those scenarios where if you catch your kid smoking you make them smoke the whole pack and get sick. In other words, you gotta take your kid to Gathering of the Juggalos.