Post Show Banter >>>>

Hutch, is the side VIP entrance still functioning at the anthem?

Yes it is

challenged wrote:

Yada wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:
can we get a challanged vs yada show count (hobo rock and backyard shows count, kid's jazz-rock ensemble shows do not)

based on my rough estimates, I'm not even in the same league as challenged…. I'm at 11 in abnormal times.

22 total.
2 probably would be excluded if this were audited: a free show at brewery (although an original set, not cover), and another at a winery, where you had to pay, but it was more for access than for the band, and it was covers.

Vas has been to a bunch of shows too though, but is also wasting his nights out on comedy and musical theatre.

What is the starting point for this tally?

For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

Space wrote:

challenged wrote:

Yada wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:
can we get a challanged vs yada show count (hobo rock and backyard shows count, kid's jazz-rock ensemble shows do not)

based on my rough estimates, I'm not even in the same league as challenged…. I'm at 11 in abnormal times.

22 total.
2 probably would be excluded if this were audited: a free show at brewery (although an original set, not cover), and another at a winery, where you had to pay, but it was more for access than for the band, and it was covers.

Vas has been to a bunch of shows too though, but is also wasting his nights out on comedy and musical theatre.

What is the starting point for this tally?

For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

My partner has been to all but one of the 11 that I've been to. But considering we've been together every day for approximately 19 months, no, she doesn't care if I do something without her.

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

Started the tally on 7/2 at a brewery show.
She has gone to 10 of these shows.
Empty nest, except for 2 cats.
Zero grief.

But, pre-panda I typically only made plans to go to weekend shows if they are with her/bands she would like. This rampant catch-up visionquest, manic, drown out the darkness, make up for lost time, thing I am doing now, has altered this, and, for example, I recently went out on a friday and saturday night without her - to Soccer Mommy and then Bob Mould Band. But, she did go to 3 shows that week. And that phenomenon is going to repeat itself this weekend. So, grief may be on the horizon.

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

god damn space….

In reality, let's just say a show started at 9pm on the dot every time there's a show. Does your wife really care if you sneak out at 8:05pm to get there for show time. What else are you doing that night other than sitting on the couch staring at your phones?

Now if you were going out pre partying (which we know you don't do) and leaving at 5pm, that's one thing… but does it really matter? You're over 50 years old!!! This isn't a high school gilfriend. Smack your partner in the head for me.

Yada wrote:

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

god damn space….

In reality, let's just say a show started at 9pm on the dot every time there's a show. Does your wife really care if you sneak out at 8:05pm to get there for show time. What else are you doing that night other than sitting on the couch staring at your phones?

Now if you were going out pre partying (which we know you don't do) and leaving at 5pm, that's one thing… but does it really matter? You're over 50 years old!!! This isn't a high school gilfriend. Smack your partner in the head for me.

No violence, please.
But otherwise, agreed, at least for me, with no kids to corral/care for/educate, etc.

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

I'd say 33/66,  I am FT, she is PT
Nope

challenged wrote:

Yada wrote:

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

god damn space….

In reality, let's just say a show started at 9pm on the dot every time there's a show. Does your wife really care if you sneak out at 8:05pm to get there for show time. What else are you doing that night other than sitting on the couch staring at your phones?

Now if you were going out pre partying (which we know you don't do) and leaving at 5pm, that's one thing… but does it really matter? You're over 50 years old!!! This isn't a high school gilfriend. Smack your partner in the head for me.

No violence, please.
But otherwise, agreed, at least for me, with no kids to corral/care for/educate, etc.

it wasn't violence, more of a playful smack… maybe do it in her bucket instead of her head.

Yada wrote:
maybe do it in her bucket instead of her head.

I've done it in a young lady's bucket before – not as thrilling as advertised.

Julian, wrote:

Yada wrote:
maybe do it in her bucket instead of her head.

I've done it in a young lady's bucket before – not as thrilling as advertised.

Take that bucket talk to the walky thread

Julian, wrote:

Yada wrote:
maybe do it in her bucket instead of her head.

I've done it in a young lady's bucket before – not as thrilling as advertised.

Agreed. There are better options.

Yada wrote:

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

god damn space….

In reality, let's just say a show started at 9pm on the dot every time there's a show. Does your wife really care if you sneak out at 8:05pm to get there for show time. What else are you doing that night other than sitting on the couch staring at your phones?

Now if you were going out pre partying (which we know you don't do) and leaving at 5pm, that's one thing… but does it really matter? You're over 50 years old!!! This isn't a high school gilfriend. Smack your partner in the head for me.

Thanks for you empathetic (?) words.  Of course there's more at play here and i won't type the boring details.. I feel like I deserve some grief received for some things, but not in the specific case of going to shows or anything else at 9pm, because we both have the option to go out at that time.

Though it's also heartening to learn that I'm not alone in receiving grief (Sidehatch.)

Everybody’s life circumstances are different


But you don’t go that many shows brother and when you do you are responsible about it… fairly confident you don’t call home at 3 am drunk as a skunk needing help finding your wheels

You don’t deserve stick

Having said that, never walked a mile in your shoes

Yada wrote:

Julian, wrote:

Yada wrote:
maybe do it in her bucket instead of her head.

I've done it in a young lady's bucket before – not as thrilling as advertised.

Take that bucket talk to the walky thread

a playful nickname i give my dog is "bucket".

thanks for ruining that.

Starsky wrote:
Everybody’s life circumstances are different


But you don’t go that many shows brother and when you do you are responsible about it… fairly confident you don’t call home at 3 am drunk as a skunk needing help finding your wheels

You don’t deserve stick

Having said that, never walked a mile in your shoes

This reminds me of the time that I went to a music festival that was held in a large field in Richmond by myself, leaving my car in a parking garage that closed a couple hours after the festival end time.

So I had maybe one beer at the festival (it was sponsored by Stone, so there beers aren't really worth paying money for), so was responsible in that regard. I moved around quite a bit during the festival, sometimes standing and sometime seated.

As the last band was doing their encore, I noticed that my keys were missing. I frantically tried to retrace every place I had been, but no keys. The band finished and everyone left, and I frantically retraced my steps, but still no keys. At that point, I went and tracked down the security and left them my info in case the keys showed up.

Then I got out my shitty little $40 cell phone that didn't have the internet and called home. I don't remember how much grief I got, but I'd say I deserved it. So we started to hash a plan…I think I was going to try to walk around downtown and try to find a hotel, she was going to drive a spare pair of keys to me the next morning…and as we're hashing out the plan and I'm still walking around in a semi-dark field looking for the needle in a haystack, I see something silver sticking out of the grass. My fucking keys.

Space wrote:

Yada wrote:

Space wrote:

Sidehatch wrote:

Space wrote:
For those with kids still at home, does your partner give you grief about how often you are gone from the house/ the family?

#everySINGLEtime

What percentage of the housework/childcare do you do and do both of you work full time? Do you think the grief is justified?

god damn space….

In reality, let's just say a show started at 9pm on the dot every time there's a show. Does your wife really care if you sneak out at 8:05pm to get there for show time. What else are you doing that night other than sitting on the couch staring at your phones?

Now if you were going out pre partying (which we know you don't do) and leaving at 5pm, that's one thing… but does it really matter? You're over 50 years old!!! This isn't a high school gilfriend. Smack your partner in the head for me.

Thanks for you empathetic (?) words.  Of course there's more at play here and i won't type the boring details.. I feel like I deserve some grief received for some things, but not in the specific case of going to shows or anything else at 9pm, because we both have the option to go out at that time.

Though it's also heartening to learn that I'm not alone in receiving grief (Sidehatch.)

Most of the time, my husband doesn't want to go to the show. I went to three in September with friends. We will be there at IDLES together. No grief, and also don't have kids. (Pretty sure he was HAPPY not to go to IG/Ani and Kesha…)

Mrs diction has a track record of leaving shows early. REM, Paul McCartney, John Denver, Mountain Goats birthday show. We no longer go to shows together.